lupinpooter

Which films would you prescribe for a patient with a broken heart?

My prescription would have to include some British WWII films of the 40s and 50s for their stiff upper lip quotient (The Dam Busters, perhaps). I might add something acerbically witty (Kind Hearts and Coronets or The Importance of being Earnest) and maybe some hard-boiled films noirs (Double Indemnity). To bring on a cathartic bout of weeping, while avoiding any hint of slush, I might add The Browning Version.

Any suggestions, film doctors?

MB

Oh dear - have you got one two Lupin?

He's not a middle aged 'media' type with an out of control ego is he?

I started a very similiar thread not so long ago and people put upsome lovely suggestions - but, it seems to have gone.

It depends what would make you feel better:

Truly, madly, deeply for 'hope'.

Bridget Jones for - I'm not going to be like that...(if you haven't read the books they are worth reading though - funnier than the films - although, she is a silly arse...)

When Harry met Sally? Some really memorable lines that help..

'The Break up' wasn't bad..some interesting pointers..Jennifer Aniston says something about Vince Vaughn as an ad lib that is a bit nasty, though..and kind of demolishes the idea that they were ever in a promising relationship, poor thing..


Sorry it's rushed - meant to be working - but I do sympathise

lupinpooter

No, he's an old academic type with an out of control ego


Damn, I must have missed that thread - and I did a preliminary search too. Maybe it's a personal thing - while in the curled-up-in-a-ball-on-sofa-still-in-pyjamas-in-the-mid-afternoon phase I couldn't bear to watch anything overtly 'romantic', particularly overtly romantic films with happy endings. That would make me want to kick my TV screen while loudly cursing the capitalist ideology of romance

Mind you, When Harry Met Sally is a great film and avoids slushiness, so I might dig that one out once In Which We Serve has finished, along with a Woody Allen (maybe Annie Hall or Play It Again, Sam?).

I hope you're feeling better MB and thanks for the suggestions

CaptainWaggett

Let the Guardian Mood Matcher help

lupinpooter

Perfect! Thank you Captain W

MB

Oh thankyou Lupin, it is surprisingly difficult isn't it...you've got loss, rejection, bewilderment, possible remorse and sadness all swirling around inside and you're meant to just get on with it. But 'they' are right - it does ease when you begin to make changes and move forward..

I also had the slight doubt in my mind that I might just be able to put things right - which stopped me progressing with the healing process..but - deep down - knew that .. what does the girl say in 'Shopgirl'? (Steve Martin novel adaptation - a bit dreary at times - and written from an obviously male perspective - but worth a look) she says 'It is case of I either get hurt now or I get hurt later and I choose now..'
I watched that in my 'afternoon on the sofa in my pj's' day and it made perfect sense, at the time.

Always worth looking at a repair job first, though.

amina

I know its not British but for me it has to be While you Were Sleeping. That feeling of finding love, acceptance and family really does makes the film special.

SirOllyBolly

Not a film, but the Niles/Daphne saga from Frasier does it for me.

SirOllyBolly

"What fresh lunacy is this?"

homeguard

Try watching 'The Family Way' (1966), a Boulting classic. It has everything to do with inter-family and inter-marriage tension. But it is John Mills's performance when recounting the sudden disappearance of his best friend that does it for me. After watching that, you will never take personal relationships for granted ever again. When I'm having a row with she who must be obeyed, I think of poor John - and wind my neck in.
Know when to give in.
Regards,
HG

bhowells

"Laughter In Paradise." with Alistair Sim, a sprinkling of The Marx Brothers and a good few doses of Laurel and Hardy especially their priceless dancing in "Way Out West." Early Woody Allen like,"Take The Money and Run." and any comedy with Margaret Rutherford in it.

lupinpooter

Modesty, your message was lovely and the quote from Shopgirl (which I haven't seen) couldn't be more appropriate after repair jobs attempted and failed. Thanks for your kind words: they meant a lot.

I didn't mean to use the thread to talk about what has happened to me, but I've been watching a lot of films lately (well, two or three a day, which is a lot for me), and it got me thinking that if I had a friend who was going through this, I might just make up a medicinal cinematic parcel (along with cake ... wine ... chicken soup and so on of course).

I shall seek out all of your suggestions, kind people!

In the end I watched ... The Night Porter

MB

Oh thankyou Lupinpooter. For a bit, I was just letting it all out..

I dislike this short term editing thing I wrote 'two' instead of too which I have never, ever done and is alien to me..and there is nothing I can do about it - it is there forever, or until the thread is mysteriously removed or I am axed for being boring and a poor speller...


I miss Donna.




...yes romantic films with happy endings - stay well clear!
I read an article on Sunday about a dead man who looks a bit like my ex - but he was in a happy relationship for thirty years and I was jealous! Even though this man is now dead! And I was jealous of his poor grieving wife. That is just terrible and I am ashamed. But still jealous. It makes no sense..but, then, I don't think this does, either and I'm not even drunk this time.


Awaits the end.

Good luck with it Lupin (sorry I wrote most of the above post before I realised you had posted)

lupinpooter

The dead doppelganger jealousy thing makes sense, but only within the curious logic of the broken-hearted

Where did donna go?

I also find TV programmes featuring Hugh Fearnley-Whittingstall strangely soothing under these circs.

<goes to dig out something featuring Margaret Rutherford>

Claire-J

Cannot think of a better weepie.

MB

Donna...I don't think we are meant to say.
But, I'll say no more. I may be completely wrong, actually..

Hanging about on the internet pretending to write helps..

You'll be fine - I can honestly say that there was a time when I genuinely thought..that is it..I'm stuffed and I meant it. I can't believe it has passed - really - but it does.

Margaret Rutherford - good choice.

Have a good sleep Lupin (sorry if I've sounded flippant - I've been feeling a bit rowdy tonight - but I'm sure you'll be OK - each day has a new dawn..)